How to Start a New Job the Right Way: The 1:1 Conversation That Sets the Tone for Success
Most people focus on proving themselves in a new role, not building the relationship that helps them thrive.
That first 1:1 with your new manager is one of the most important conversations you’ll have.
It’s a chance to set expectations, build trust, and show initiative from day one.
Why This Conversation Matters
- First impressions aren’t about performance, they’re about clarity and connection.
- Psychological safety starts with shared understanding.
- Early alignment prevents misunderstandings later.
- It’s easier to set healthy boundaries now than to fix patterns later.
- Builds credibility - you’re seen as proactive, reflective, and collaborative.
What to Cover in Your First 1:1
- Priorities: “What’s most important for me to focus on in my first month?”
- People: “Who should I build strong relationships with early on?”
- Feedback: “How do you prefer to give and receive feedback?”
- Communication: “What’s the best way to keep you updated?”
- Success: “What would great look like after 90 days?”
💡 Tip: Frame it as a partnership - you’re not being managed, you’re co-creating how you’ll work together.
How to Prepare Beforehand
- Reflect on your own strengths, growth areas, and values.
- Define what you need to do your best work.
- Clarify your own 30-60-90 goals (learning, contributing, influencing).
- Come with curiosity, not a checklist.
After the Conversation
- Send a short follow-up email summarising what you agreed (“Here’s what I took away from our chat - just to make sure I captured everything correctly”).
- This shows accountability and builds trust immediately.
- Review your notes regularly to track how aligned you remain.
Reflection Prompt
“What kind of working relationship do I want to create - and how can I model that from day one?”
Free Resource
I’ve created a simple 1:1 Kick-Off Template to help you have this conversation with confidence.
You can download it free here:
👉 New Role 1:1 Template
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